Do not be like The Parable of the Wicked Tenants. Love is not self-seeking.
Self-seeking means pursuing one's own interests or ambitions in a determined way.

This is the question? If anyone has material possessions and sees a brother or sister in need but has no pity on them, how can the love of God be in that person?

Love Is Not Self-Seeking
by Trey Knowles
Truth & Knowledge Episode 61